Thursday, March 29, 2012

The Adoption Update...

For the backstory, click here; also visit our adoption site, To Grow Our Family, as well as heading to the Facebook page and liking it...

It's been close to seven months since I first shared the gritty details of our adoption process, and I figured now is a good time to give an update.  

In the fall, we started the process in earnest to domestically adopt an infant.  The home study was underway and we had decided upon the agency with which we would go.  We had met with our worker and seemingly everything was on its way.  

Or so we thought.

In November, there had been some rumblings that our lack of the totality of resources would hold us back, but we would not know until December.  Our worker had informed us that it was possible that the home study would not be approved until we had the totality of the funds needed in our possession - twenty thousand dollars.  

Yes, $20,000.  Shortly thereafter, our fears were confirmed.  The home study would sit in limbo until we had every single penny of that twenty grand.  A vicious cycle began with this particular decision - most non-profits and charitable organizations will not dispense grants and low-interest loans unless you have an approved home study.  But we couldn't get the home study approved unless we already had the money in toto

And around and around we go...

I'll be honest - despondency is a very ugly thing.  These past few months, especially with the winter time and its short days make for a brutal stretch in the mind.  I very much subscribe to the notion of nil desperandum (never despair), but there have been days (and I speak solely for myself here) when I have gotten close to the abyss.  I pray a lot - more than I ever have.  It has been a long and arduous test, but one that is nowhere near close to completion, I'm afraid to say.  

I just continue to hope and pray that we can catch some kind of break.  Paradoxically, it's getting ever more difficult to adopt a child in this day and age.  Just recently, we found out that most of the agencies are raising the prices of their fees, which make some of these things closer to $22,000 or $23,000.  In other words, the good times just keep on rolling.  We are trying the best we can - saving what we can and relying on fundraising (the next thing is a benefit dinner on April 15th).  Hopefully soon we can reach that goal and give a child a loving home and family.  

Hope...

and pray...

We need every bit of it we can get.

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